Mom accused of neglect for attending sister’s wedding infuriates internet

Members of a popular internet forum were outraged after one mother revealed how her presence at her sister’s wedding ended with a scathing husband and accusations of neglect.

In a viral Reddit post published on r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Walls_Windows1376 (otherwise referred to as the original poster, or OP) said the couple had argued about making the trek to the wedding for months before her husband’s actions forced her to take matters into her own hands.

Titled, “[Am I the a**hole] for still going to my sister’s wedding after my husband canceled my plane ticket?” the post has received nearly 14,000 upvotes and 3,000 comments in the last eight hours.

“Here’s the situation,” OP began. “My husband…and I…have 3 kids. I’m a [stay-at-home mom] and I take care of the kids while my husband works (full time).”

Continuing to explain that her sister was married last weekend, the original poster said the celebration was hours away, and that her husband made it clear he would not be attending from the beginning.

The original poster also said that, despite her husband’s refusal to attend and disdain for her sister, she still planned on going and purchased a plane ticket for the weekend of the wedding.

Unfortunately, that plane ticket was never used.

“When we first got the invite he told me that he wasn’t going, that he will stay for the kids and suggested I do the same,” OP wrote. “I insisted on going since that’s my only sister.

“As the wedding was [approaching]he brought it up and told me to miss it and stay with the kids…I ignored him,” OP continued.” “The day of my flight I dropped the kids off at my friends place, then…found out he had canceled my plane ticket…so I went home and got into my car and drove 4 [hours].

“My husband called and was freaking out on me asking where I was…he blew up saying I wasn’t supposed to go, even said he canceled my ticket to get me to stay,” OP added. “He called me [a] horrible, neglectful mom then had his mom scold me and accuse me of abandoning my own kids.”

Attempts by a romantic partner to prevent an individual from seeing or meeting with family members and friends are an immediate red flag and potential indicator of emotional abuse, according to Psychology Today.

When somebody is isolated from their loved ones, their perception of their relationship and, more importantly, their partner’s behavior, can quickly become muddied.

“An emotional abuser may gaslight their victim into believing that their unhappiness is their own fault,” Psychology Today asserts. “And they often seek to isolate their victim from friends and family, to prevent the person from getting a reality check or a broader perspective.”

Isolation, as well as other abuse tactics, are all intended to increase control while stripping away a victim’s autonomy. And when those tactics fail, Healthline reports that yelling, screaming and other forms of violence are sure to follow.

Mother upset after learning plane ticket was cancelled. Members of Reddit’s r/AmITheA**hole forum were infuriated after one mother revealed why her husband canceled her flight to her sister’s wedding.
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Throughout the comment section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors echoed that sentiment, acknowledging the incision of an action like canceling a partner’s purchased plane ticket and strongly advising the original poster to reevaluate her relationship with her husband.

“Financial abuse? Yup. Isolating you from loved ones? Yup. Controlling behavior? Yup,” Redditor u/waywardjynx wrote in the post’s top comment, which has received more than 25,000 upvotes.

“[Not the a**hole] and please leave the [a**hole],” they continued. “You are not neglectful, your kids were taken care of.”

Redditor u/Aussiebibliophile, whose comment has received more than 8,000 upvotes, offered a similar response, keeping focus on the accusations of neglecting to levied against the original poster.

“The man…did everything he could not have to parent his own kids for a weekend,” they exclaimed.

“Your relationship is not healthy,” they added. “He is manipulating and controlling.”

“He’s controlling and isolating you from the family,” Redditor u/Vequihellin chimed in, receiving more than 3,000 upvotes. “You’re already beholden to him as the [breadwinner] and he cancels a plane ticket to force you to stay away from your family…you need to [get the f**k out] of there.”

Newsweek reached out to u/Walls_Windows1376 for comment.

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